on grieving alone-together
ahh i'm getting ready to send out my newsletter for the month of april! you can subscribe to my newsletters via the connect page in my website header. among other goodies, this one will contain a brief (about 15 minutes) guided breath work practice to support moving through grief. once you have the link to any of my sound recordings you'll be able to go back and listen indefinitely.
the other day, brilliant tarot reader and astrologer diana rose wrote, "grief is evidence of love... to sit with your grief is to sit with your loves. this is as holy as it is hard, as holy as it is human."
it's not news that social structures operating under capitalism are stingy when it comes to meeting basic human needs. during the pandemic, we see this emerging once again. many of us are experiencing the pain and healing of generational experiences of trauma blurring with contemporary struggle both locally and globally; and the hyper-exposure to news via digital media means that there are only moments (if that) between surges of tension. i wonder about this overwhelm of information - including the endless lists of resources to sift through, forms to apply through, links to click, numbers to call - and further effects on the soma and psyche. at some point we do not need another foundation's resource list telling us where to apply for funding, but direct material support toward a spaciousness and permission within which to relax and process in the ways living beings need to process.
grieving is part of our essential nature. in this time the atmosphere of grief is very public, which is challenging on many levels, particularly among those of us who have been conditioned out of grieving by any combination of cultural, historically institutionalized, interpersonal influences. i am also thinking of those who have lost someone and are now navigating barriers to their mourning ceremonies and funerary rites. what does grieving look like in the time of social distancing?
whether you are grieving the loss of a loved one, a job, leaving a situation that no longer serves you, or coping with the collective atmosphere of grief in this global upheaval, we are all needing to find new ways to process, to sit with grief and move it through our bodies. to be holy(wholly) and human and loving.
my intention with this coming offering is to support all the important work you're doing from within. if you are seeking emotional support or guidance for home practice, please don't hesitate to reach out.
mutual aid mourning is a locally-organized effort emerging in this time to directly support grieving processes. from the request form: "Dear friend,
If you are filling out this form, someone close to you has passed. With all the love in our hearts, we want to offer our deepest condolences and witness. There are no words to adequately comfort you. However, it is our humble and sincere hope that we might connect you with someone who can help facilitate some comfort and ease in your time of sorrow.
We are a group of Chicago-based organizers gathering a list of clergy members, death midwives/doulas, therapists, social workers, and healers who are here to offer some support by phone or video conferencing.
Please fill out the form below and tell us as much as you can about the support you are seeking. Within 24-hours, one of us will be in touch to connect you with someone or update you on the status of your request."